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A family can be compared to a garden where different flowers (the members) bloom. Each person is wonderfully unique, each has his/her own individuality. Even twins, though they may be seemingly alike, are in some ways different, often in each one’s characteristics as a human being. It depends now on the elders, guardians, the parents most of all, to nurture a child so that this will grow not only to be good, respectful, well-mannered, generous and independent-minded, but also will become a dependable, responsible and helpful community member and citizen – a child of God. However, this is rather sensitive for in some cases, there are really children who go the other way, not because of any lack of good example and training on the part of parents. Peer influence and environmental situations could be the reason. Still, this can be traced back to the parents? It depends maybe, so we’ll just be general, shall we say, in most cases.

One of parents’ challenging – in different degrees – tasks is to let each child bloom on his/her own capacities. One should not be compared with the others, and there should be no favorites – or shall we say, they should all be favorites! The parents should only be leading, guiding, with the right discipline, but never to impose their own likes and dislikes, most especially on matters which now affect the choices of a grown-up son or daughter. Two of the most common sources of heartaches and family quarrels are a parent’s iron hand in the choice of a college course and in the choice of a life partner.

On top of love, respect for the individuality of a person should be prime, and parents, though they should “reign” supreme in some areas (such as discipline) of a child, should be aware of this. Aside from instilling spiritual values, if there is love and respect therefore, plus a sensitivity to a child’s feelings and emotional needs – the unseen, aside from what is physical therefore can be seen – then you have the ingredients of a loving and firm relationship of parents and children.

In a later post, I wish to share on discipline. For now, mom811 says bye bye, God bless you, and happy parenting, young moms!!!

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